My husband is a narcissist, although not in the most severe way. Unfortunately he is very successful which doesn't help.
I have asked him to go to marriage therapy with me, but he won't. His answer is, if I am that unhappy then I should marry someone else (this was said as a half joke) and that if I think it's that bad we shouldn't be together.
He also always makes me feel like my problems are irrelevant because I have a nice life, lovely house and lifestyle et cetera. If I say I'm annoyed about anything, this is the go to answer. 'Really? There are bigger problems in the world, if that's your biggest problem you need to get over it' don't get me wrong he is good to me, and a lot of the time is very caring/considerate, but it's always on his terms.
I don't disagree there are bigger problems in the world and that the things I generally take issue with are the things that make me feel like I am not appreciated and are small because there are so many of them they make something big, if that makes sense
, an example from today is if he is working from home and he won't take something upstairs that's been left there (to take up). He comes down and says dont leave stuff on the stairs as I will fall over it and I say well it's there to take up can you just take it up with you it's been there all day. And then the default answer 'you could always do it yourself' this breaks my heart. I can't explain why but this really really gets to me that it's all back on me. It's not the thing on the stairs it's the underlying stuff.
I don't know why I'm writing this. I am 29, two young kids under 5, if that matters.
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tigerbasil · 05/11/2017 22:08
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