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My parents hate each other..

(6 Posts)
DewDropsonKittens Sun 05-Nov-17 20:45:25

And i am (as usual) smack bang in the middle of it

My parents were both abusive growing up, i spent a year of NC but i really missed them

I'm an only child

For the last 10 years they have become so unbelievably dependant on each other, they are vile about each other (too me) but if i show an opinion they turn on me.

In the last few months they have been arguing a lot, i have had to tell them the DC will not be going round if it doesn't stop as my eldest sat in the back of the car whilst they shouted at each other and was understandably upset by it.

Tonight they've fell out again, my mother is a narcissistic she causes problems by not relaying information properly. My dad shouts before thinking

He phoned me to get me on his side

She turned up in tears and played at the strings to get me on her side.

I have no idea what to do... I just want to tell them to grow up, separate.. Kill each other

Ultimately i am always in the middle but never allowed an opinion

Any advice??

LineysRun Sun 05-Nov-17 20:49:11

I don't have any specific advice, but you are certainly not alone in this. It's horrible. flowers

littlemissneela Sun 05-Nov-17 21:01:03

Sadly, no, not alone in this. My dh parents were like this. They would, or rather his mum would scream and shout at his dad. It didn't help they drank so much. There were occasional glimpses they still loved each other.
Im not sure what the suggestion is for you. I might be inclined to say to each of them, you are adults, you sort it out. I don't want to hear about it. Just try not to be drawn into it. Good luck!

DewDropsonKittens Sun 05-Nov-17 21:05:18

I don't think there is any way that i am not involved

If they stay together they put me in the middle

If they split up they will expect me to choose between them.

Roweami Sun 05-Nov-17 21:23:23

They sound totally immature and maybe you need to tell them both to grow up!!!

Jux Sun 05-Nov-17 21:40:48

Don’t choose, no matter how much they try to make you. Just do the mmm hmm noises and don’t offer an opinion. That’s going to be hard.

Sounds like, miss them or not, you’ll be better going nc. Your children will almost certainly be better going nc.

Have you seen the Stately Homes threads for people with toxic parents?

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