I know the answer really

[DamnedIfIDo]

I guess this post is just about trying to see it in black and white.

I have been seeing a guy for about 3 months now. He’s currently gone awol having made firm plans for this weekend.

I suspect he’s been arrested. I know for many that is an instant dealbreaker but here’s the thing.

Since my marriage ended I have dated a few guys. I met him on a swinging site having not been looking for a full on relationship. We clicked massively. I would never have met someone like him in daily life for a number of reasons.

He has a dodgy past and I know that I should just forget and move on.

But I can’t. When we are together, I have never known chemistry like it. He makes me feel myself in a way no one else ever has. I can’t even begin to articulate how good I feel when I’m when we are together.

But I know this is going to keep happening.

I am at a point where I don’t even want to look at another man. I have no means of finding out where he is and it’s driving me crazy.

Fuck, it would have been easier never to have met him...

I know I need to let it go but why is it so hard?

Can you please all tell me to get a grip. I know it’s just crazy sex hormones but where the hell do I find that level of satisfaction anywhere else?

[TammyswansonTwo]

There are plenty of decent, non-criminal people who can make you feel the way you describe. I know it's so hard, but you are right - you do know you need to walk away. Infatuation isn't a basis for a healthy relationship, especially when you know he is so flawed. Steel yourself and know you deserve more than this.

[Myheartbelongsto]

What was he arrested for?

My boyfriend has been to prison so no judgment here.

[MyBrilliantDisguise]

Is this the guy who was selling crack?

[pinkliquorice]

Why do you suspect he had been arrested? For doing what?
Everybody has some kind of dodgy past, it dosnt mean a thing if it’s in the past.

[DamnedIfIDo]

Thanks all, I don’t believe it was drugs or violence related from conversation we had had and I’ve never felt at any risk from him. I think I’m just going to live my life and take it as it comes. I never know what is round the corner