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Am I actually a fucking selfish bitch ?

(24 Posts)
tumblrpigeon Sat 04-Nov-17 21:53:20

Because my drunk boyfriend seems to think so

RunningOutOfCharge Sat 04-Nov-17 21:54:09

Who knows?

Gemini69 Sat 04-Nov-17 21:54:23

I would take anything a 'Drunk' boyfriend said with a pinch of salt.. and debate the issue when he is Sober flowers

Pollydonia Sat 04-Nov-17 21:56:17

Is he often verbally abusive when he's been drinking?

SerendipityFelix Sat 04-Nov-17 21:58:00

Well, we’d need more information than that to work it out. But from that snippet, he comes off way worse.

Wolfiefan Sat 04-Nov-17 21:58:54

He's drunk and verbally abusing you? Time for him to go.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 04-Nov-17 21:59:10

Maybe you're selfish. Who knows? But he'd better have a really really good reason to call you a fucking bitch.

PurpleDaisies Sat 04-Nov-17 21:59:26

More information needed but I doubt it.

Either way, do you want to be with someone who calls you that?

ChevalierTialys Sat 04-Nov-17 22:02:22

Regarding being selfish - it depends, whats the backstory here?

Regarding being a fucking bitch - do you accept being spoken to like that?

Livedandlearned Sat 04-Nov-17 22:04:24

If I was spoken to like that my boyfriend would become an ex boyfriend. I wouldn't forget that in a hurry.

tumblrpigeon Sun 05-Nov-17 20:29:09

Massive apologies from him today.
I’m weary and wary

Wolfiefan Sun 05-Nov-17 20:29:53

Is he regularly drunk and abusive?

tumblrpigeon Sun 05-Nov-17 21:19:49

No he’s never drunk and abusive.
So out of character.
Despite this , and the profuse apology I’m really shaken.

No backstory.
He was out for 5 hours in the pub watching football with his friends. This is a regular occurrence when a certain team plays. He is often out till after 10 pm.

I enjoy the peace and quiet. In fact I went to bed.
Woke at about 7 pm and popped over to best friend’s house for an hour. I left my bag and phone in the hall and when I left I had several missed calls and messages from him asking where I was and why I was not picking up.

This continued at home. Till he went to bed

tumblrpigeon Sun 05-Nov-17 21:20:18

He’s quite often drunk but never abusive .

magoria Sun 05-Nov-17 21:45:26

Did his team lose?

Apparently is not unusual for some people to go home and take out their team losses on their partners. It is quite a thing with big games.

It is not acceptable.

Wolfiefan Sun 05-Nov-17 21:47:43

He's regularly shit faced? What are his good points?

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 05-Nov-17 21:54:59

Does he have an explanation?

tumblrpigeon Sun 05-Nov-17 23:15:47

Drunk, not shit faced.
No idea if the team lost. He’s not that into sport , he likes the social aspect with a group of friends.

He took out his upset over a difficult work situation (a client didn’t pay him) on me. Was mortified when he sobered up;

tumblrpigeon Sun 05-Nov-17 23:16:19

Too many good points to mention

Wolfiefan Sun 05-Nov-17 23:24:44

Sorry but I wouldn't live with a verbally abusive drunk. If drinking makes him act this way he needs to stop. And you have to be pretty shit faced to think it's ok to talk to someone like that.

Ruddygreattiger2016 Sun 05-Nov-17 23:43:28

No fucking chance I would be around anyone, friend or boyfriend, who talked to me like that, drunk or not.

scottishdiem Mon 06-Nov-17 02:58:17

Often alcohol opens the door to thoughts that are kept well hidden from the light of day. When drunk, did he say why he felt that way?

Now that he is sober those thoughts will be back in the box but you have seen what can open it (drink and stress) are you both able to resolve the feels together before they come again?

Annoyed5678 Mon 06-Nov-17 04:50:17

Truth comes out when drunk he's mortified as your complaining give it 6 months of this then it'll become normal behaviour 12 months he don't need an excuse of being drunk to say these things. Most people when a client doesn't pay send a reminder letter not abuse their girlfriend.

TDHManchester Mon 06-Nov-17 04:54:53

I don't find drunkeness appealing in men or women. I'm amazed that so many people put up with it.

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