I feel like this may turn into a rant... I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years on and off now, we have the most amazing 15 month old daughter together. But, our relationship hasn't always been straightforward.
Our problems started a few years ago early in our relationship, he was chatting up other girls. This wasn't too much of an issue as it was still early days, but since then I've discovered he has met up with a few of them in the past.. It's never went past more than kissing, according to him. He's also been saving pictures of girls on facebook, all of which are really skinny, full of make-up and just a bit fake which he always says that he absolutely hates and isn't his type.
When I found out that I was pregnant it was a massive shock and it was fair to say he wasn't overly happy about it. This put a huge strain on our relationship and he never contributed anything at all towards things for our daughter. He then lost his job while I was pregnant and only got a new job a few weeks before I gave birth - a job which he then lost 7/8 months later. He's been unemployed since before Mother's Day this year and recently started working in a warehouse for Christmas. He's only just started and doesn't like to talk about his work or anyone he's met.
My gut told me there was something a bit strange so I looked on his facebook - I know snooping never solves anything but I seen messages he sent to his new guy friend at work saying he was going to try get a christmas romance on the go with one of the girls in the warehouse.... Who he had started to message on facebook, the messages all seem innocent so far. The thing is I feel so confused, he has been telling his best friend who is a mutual friend of mine that he really loves me and wants our relationship to work but yet he doesn't show me in any way that he wants to work things out.
The thought of splitting up makes me feel sad but then again I feel stupid for sticking with him?
I grew up in a broken home and I feel like this has affected me in a major way. I don't want my daughter to grow up in a broken home, I need some advice? What do I do? How do I get over the crap he has done?
Or if I end it... how do I get over him?
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melissam96 · 04/11/2017 21:09
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