I'm currently going through a stressful time for reasons I don't want to give for fear of outing myself.
DH has an extremely demanding job that he can't seem to switch off from. I used to work alongside him at the same place, however I left a couple of years ago as the employers were not particularly nice people, particularly with women. I felt quite traumatised for a while following leaving. I now have a job I love and a great employer, but I don't really like to think about the place DH still works as it holds so many negative memories for me.
DH however, talks about work constantly and it's really getting me down. He can't seem to even focus on tasks at home as it's all work, work, work occupying his mind. I also feel my stress levels rising each time he talks about the place. I have no desire to even think about it and yet I feel obliged as DH'S wife to sit and listen and advise often but I really hate it. He is happy at work overall, he says, but finds it all consuming. I am just about able to cope and listen to him when all is well at home, but with how things are at the moment, I don't even want to think about that place as it just adds to my stress levels enormously.
I can't get him to focus on anything else and I really need him to switch off when he's at home so he can actually help me. I do wonder if he's cut out for the job he's doing as he just has no off switch at all, which I had to learn to have when I worked with him as we had young DCs at the time. I've tried to be a supportive, listening wife, but I can't keep doing it when I need his head in the mode of home and family.
AIBU to want him to shut up and switch off?
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DH constantly talks about work and nothing else
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elbowskneestoes · 04/11/2017 06:33
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