Thank god it's not just me. Would never act on I but find myself very attracted to a colleague. Tbh I think it's more to do with me wanting to feel attractive and worth something after a tough few years in my marriage.
I think it's really common. I've been there and I don't doubt that my husband has too. Enjoy it for what it is - an attraction. Don't allow it to become anything more. There may well be others over the years that catch your eye. I think that by experiencing these attractions but not acting upon them in anyway can actually reinforce the sense of commitment you have made to you DH xx
When I get this I try and be logical about it. I think about what the attraction really means and then I think about biology and that its all down to wanting to breed with someone who is genetically compatible.
Crushes are cruel. They can come from nowhere as well.
Ive got a massive crush on someone I work with. The strange thing is that I've worked with them for eight years and never really looked twice. That all changed A few months ago when I happened to glance over one day in a meeting and for some bizarre and unknown reason I thought 'wow!' and I've been like a starry eyed smitten teenager ever since.
It's just physical though and like everyone says, it'll pass.
Yes totally normal . And I agree that the key to surviving it is not having ANY social contact at all. So no coffees or lunches together, justified on the basis that we are “ just friends “. No texting or private chit chats.
I was in the same boat as you, OP. I did have social contact outside of the club we both attended, but we didn't act on anything. We made a pact that although we were attracted to each other, our friendship was worth far more than the possibility of a relationship and a split.
We're still great friends to this day and sound off each other for advice with a cuppa and a catch up.
That said, most of my friends are male anyway, as I was brought up with boys (I was the only girl out of 6 siblings), loved all the stuff boys did like helping to fix dad's car, etc. So I had more in common with men than I did with women.
Talk to me about motorbikes/cars/tools etc and I'm interested. Talk to me about getting nails done/facials/spa days/boob jobs, and watch my eyes glaze over with boredom.
Name changed for this as it is a bit embarrassing but I have had a major crush on a work colleague for over a year. I am married, he is very happily married to a beautiful woman and they have gorgeous children. I limit how often I talk to him due to this crush, I certainly never flirt with him and I would definitely never in a million years act on this infatuation. But he is so lovely, kind, clever and so passionate about his job, which I find really attractive. His obvious love for his family is adorable, but I felt stupidly jealous at the sight of he and his wife being very lovey dovey at a recent work do. Aaaarrrrgggghhhhh why are some people so bloody perfect! I do sympathise with your crush OP, I just want mine to go away!
DH and I separated almost 2 weeks ago and this other guy and I speak daily. DH is desperate to sort things, but the feelings between this other guy and I are clouding the situation. I feel like an absolutely ass hole! The simple truth is, I was completely miserable in my marriage and this other guy was meeting my emotional needs!