I’m not sure where to start. My husband has always had a quick temper and quickly goes to anger on any given subject (never been violent towards me - but has hit plenty of walls in his time). Since the birth of our daughter (2) this has got worse largely I think thanks to tiredness and the shock of responsibility a child brings. Work has also become busier and more stressful - he frequently works 60 hour weeks. He’s always had huge anxiety issues and doesn’t have a healthy relationship with alcohol. All fun and games huh! I’m writing as it’s really reached a crisis point in terms of us and our relationship. He no longer speaks to his family (they’re knobs but they don’t entirely deserve the anger he directs towards to them) which means I’m not the only outlet for all his anger, mistrust and stress. I’ve pleaded for him to seek help via counselling or therapy which is just another trigger to anger. I’m just so exhausted of the same cycle of arguments we go through. I’m always in the wrong - I work too hard (I work part time which I enjoy), I don’t keep the house tidy enough, I’m controlling and manipulative, I’m too stressed out, I’m a bad mother. I’ve been really ill this week (vomiting etc etc) and that’s my fault too - for not looking after myself well enough for him. He occasionally come out of these rages full of apologies but these spells of regret are coming less often. On paper I should leave him - but I know he’s a good person beneath all the shit - there’s just a pile of emotional debris that he gets lost in. I don’t know what I’m asking. I’ve pinned hopes on therapy opening a door for him but I can’t convince him to go. Does anyone who’s been through similar have any advice?
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My husband's angry with everyone all the time
wildermama · 03/11/2017 10:54
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