Been seeing a great great guy for last six months. Started slowly and now living in each other’s pockets :)
But... on Monday we went out for a meal at a v nice place where the staff are v v attentive and love to provide good service. He spoke over them on say six or seven instances, where they were trying to put the food down and explain where food was sourced from (they’re into that), or give us menus or ask us how our food was to each course (five courses)
What should’ve been a lovely special evening was instead frankly a bit shit. When we’re together he asks about my day endlessly, cooks all the time and refuses to let me clean up... it’s heaven!! And then we go somewhere nice and this time he’s rude to staff when being lovely to me.. it was like being on say a fourth date with someone when you realise they’re a dick, and they’re chatting away trying to impress you and all you’re thinking is get me out of here
Obvious example - by end of evening staff were clearly little bit bored of serving us because of him. When they’d ask how a dish was he’d bluster “oh awful, worst thing I’ve tasted... like it was out of a bin” etc every bloody time! It wasn’t funny, even though he was clearly trying to be... and when he’d say this he would deliver these lines to me jokingly, so he didn’t even properly address the waiters. Maybe I’m being too sensitive but manners and respect for others are very important to me!!
Three months ago there was something similar at the cinema. He was asking someone who worked there how to find the exit (he didn’t know I was nearby) and was quite short with him, and stroppy almost. It was really ridiculous and I pulled him up on it at the time
Also on Monday, maybe three times he made crude remarks about me and sex the staff waiting at nearby tables were likely to hear; I was mortified and told him each time to stop :( he was giddy though, honestly if I didn’t know better I’d assume he was secretly coke-y (he’s not...I hope)
Last night ended with me asking why he was so obnoxious all of a sudden and telling him all these examples...
Does anyone have experience of this? It’s rare enough that I don’t have enough evidence as to whether he’s a secretly horrid person... can I set up a test somehow...
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Testing a man’s obnoxious side
Notmyrealname85 · 02/11/2017 19:50
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