I could really do with a kick up the backside.
I'm newly separated, it's coming up to 6 months but there's been lots of intense crying sessions, disappearing acts and general angst from my xh so it doesn't really feel like 6 months. I've even had to call the police round to escort him from our house once. I know I'm well out of the marriage and couldn't be happier with my new independence. He had severe anxiety and used that to beat me with in all aspects of our life.
What I'm concerned about is the effect it's having on our two dc. They are both under 5, ds (3yo) is particularly struggling - crying lots for daddy, saying "daddy misses me", having bad dreams, toilet accidents, angry at me etc etc. I know it would be better if his dad were stable, had his own place and set contact times etc but that hasn't happened and probably won't for a while. Last night my dc were away overnight and I spent most of what should have been a lovely night alone crying out of guilt and worry and genuinely considering asking their dad to come back! I've banished that insane thought now, but what can I do to help my dc through this?
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Worrying about the effect of divorce on my dc
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Mamaka · 02/11/2017 16:25
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