Ok, I feel guilty writing this but I'm feeling very sad and frustrated today.
My husband is a good man. He is a good husband, a devoted dad. He works full time in a demanding job. He does more than his share with the house and kids. For background, we have two young girls, one is nearly three and the other is 12 weeks. I'm on mat leave. All finances etc shared.
When I married my husband, one of the things I loved about him was his laid back, unflappable personality. Nothing ever really got him down. Since the birth of DD1, I've noticed a shift. He's become a total stresshead. He's grumpy and unhappy a lot of the time. It has become even more pronounced since DD2 came along (and this has coincided with a promotion).
He and DD1 are so close that sometimes I feel excluded. He absolutely dotes on her and she worships the ground he walks on. He is developing the same bond with the baby but as she is so small, she is mainly with me. She's a pretty good baby. Only gets up once a night. Formula fed, so he does night feeds at the weekends and I do them while he works.
It is hard though. DD1 is going through an awkward, disobedient stage and is quite clearly jealous of her new sister. I'm trying to be easy going about it. I don't want to be shouting etc at her all day and generally we rub along just fine. DH , however, ties himself up in knots over her behaviour. He gets very grumpy with her. He doesn't lose his temper (I don't think he has much of a temper, but he's always moaning and telling her off. He's become quite moody. So yeah, life is quite hard just now with the two of them. There is no down time really. Par for the course isn't it?
More and more, I am getting the impression that he simply doesn't enjoy being with us. He always seems down and stressed out at the weekends. He barely takes any time off. He will absolutely do his share, but often is quite sulky about it.
I don't want him to leave but I dunno what to do. I feel like he feels we have ruined his life.
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RoganLogan · 02/11/2017 14:33
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