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Making new friends advice

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Osbornemrs Wed 01-Nov-17 12:15:58

I have struggled to make new friends where I live. I work in London so never dropped my son off or did pick up at Nursery although I would talk to a few mums at the birthday parties we would go to. But I didn’t form any lasting bonds there. Now my son has just gone to school and I try and speak to other mums to make conversation but I don’t seem to be bonding with anyone whilst I watch others becoming close friends. I have only a few friends locally but we aren’t that close. I just don’t know what I am doing wrong. Other mums seem to find it much easier to just make connections and make lots of friends. Any suggestions of what I could do? I tried fitness classes but always ended up at the back whilst all the others chatted away in their groups. I don’t understand why it’s so bloody hard!

Shoxfordian Wed 01-Nov-17 12:17:50

Maybe try using MeetUp, there's lots of different groups to join and people are friendly

Osbornemrs Wed 01-Nov-17 12:28:53

Thanks Hun, Where do I find meetup? Is it an app or Facebook group?

I think things might have been different if I’d had done nct classes as I think a lot of mums friendship groups were created there but I didn’t.

Shoxfordian Wed 01-Nov-17 14:20:15

Its an app or you can use the website

I met some good friends on there when I moved to london. Good luck with it smile

cakecakecheese Wed 01-Nov-17 14:21:47

Meetup is good, it is an app but there is a website too

There's an app to find female friends called Vina but I've not used it so don't know if it's any good.

Also what about book clubs?

Shoxfordian Wed 01-Nov-17 14:23:43

I think you can use Bumble for friend dates too but I haven't so don't know how good it is

hellsbellsmelons Wed 01-Nov-17 15:25:58

I hear ya.
I moved slightly away 12 years ago now.
I still have no close friends in the area.
They just aren't my kind of people.
I could go out on my own and find lots of people that I 'know' and who I could talk to but none are my friends.
Once my DD is settled in her adult life I shall be moving back to my family.
I have some really goods friends but we just aren't close geographically.
It's a shame but there it is. is good so definitely have a look on there.

Trying2bgd Wed 01-Nov-17 15:38:16

PTA is often a useful way of forging closer mum relationships. Spending several hours wrapping prizes, and sticking labels on them is rather bonding! After a few years of doing this and making friends, you can then quit and never return!!! How about neighbours? Sometimes you can make a good friend and if nothing else they can be a good source of information on groups or other interesting events. Good luck, I know it isn't easy to make local friends xx

Osbornemrs Wed 01-Nov-17 16:08:41

I keep thinking about the pta but I am literally working all hours god sends at the moment and wanted time to socialise but I guess I could offer some time to man a stall or something at the school fair or sell cakes. They are do able things

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