My parents, despite being in their 60-70s, are behaving like they are 85 and are driving myself and my sister nuts. We could use some help on how to handle the situation.
For a bit of context, Mum is 67 and Dad recently turned 70. Their health is not brilliant - both have COPD caused by 50+ years of heavy smoking (now stopped). Dad is worse than Mum, but both manage it OK. I am mid-thirties with a 21 month old and 7 months pregnant with DS2. I live in mainland Europe and with my DH. I have a younger sister (33) who is married and lives about 45 mins from my parents.
Parents have never been people for pushing themselves out of their comfort zones and it's always been a battle to get them to do new things. Dh and I visit them 3-4 times a year, but this will reduce when the new baby comes. Getting them out here is a hassle (not logistically, but because of their attitudes to doing anything other than they usually do). Both my sister and I have being trying to encourage them to take up more activities for their own health and sanity but it falls on deaf ears and is becoming increasingly frustrating.
Both DM and DDad have been told by their doctors that they need to keep active but apart from Dad playing bowls, they do nothing. They also do nothing to keep their brains active and spend a lot of time hanging around the house and getting on each others' nerves. Dad drives, Mum doesn't, but they live in a big city so transport isn't an issue.
We are at a loss as to how to get them to do new things. At this rate, we are worried they will just wither away and die through lack of effort and it is so infuriating watching this. When we compare them to my DH's parents and my DSis' in-laws, there is a world of difference. They are all of a similar age and some still work, others part-time, they volunteer, travel, do community activities etc. They are hardly ever in the house, unlike our parents who just sit around/watch crappy TV/go to Tesco.
If anyone can empathise or has some advice, I'd be very grateful to hear it.
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Retired parents do nothing and their health is suffering
DeltaG · 31/10/2017 12:29
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