PHONE AGAIN!!

[nc1234567]

Honestly I am sick to death of seeing my DP sat on his phone it is driving me insane!!!

Anyone else have this issue and how do you deal with it?

He is such an amazing dad and partner otherwise but it's SO annoying, rude and unsociable...

DP has own company which is predominantly phone email based etc, he spends a lot of time messaging various people who he works with (who are also friends), and a lot of time on Instagram for ideas etc, which i get but I feel like it is never out of his hands... for example he wakes up in the morning and the first thing he does is reach for his phone, I don't think it's anything dodgy with regards to other women etc just general internet browsing etc, and I understand working hard etc etc but at least give your partner a kiss / cuddle first! Or at least say morning!!

For example we have been out shopping, got home I changed and fed baby, I went for a shower he watched her and winded whilst I was showering, I came down the stairs, he said "do you want to take her she's just not settling" so I took dd, he sat down and picked up phone scrolling texting etc (usually fine but the whole time we were shopping he was on a work phone call (again fine but don't come home and pick up the phone again!) so I brought dd up for a cuddle in bed as it just infuriates me, and he was like "oh you're going to bed, you haven't given me very much attention"

I just feel like it's a second hand to him but he doesn't even realise he's doing it, his family point out all the time as well

AIBU?

Rant over 😩

[Aquamarine1029]

You're not being unreasonable and it's a huge problem. Can you talk to him about enacting phone free hours? He will destroy his family if he doesn't wake up as to how destructive this is.

[RainbowWish]

I know exactly how you feel. My dp is the exact same. Doesn't even realise he is doing it.
I can be midsentance and put comes his phone. I stop speaking until he notices ( which isn't often lol)
When i am bored ie kids in bed and him on the phone, I will read the papers on my phone.
And he is for even telling me how much time I spend on my phone.
If one there was an app that counted how many hours he used it to show him reality.

[MyBrilliantDisguise]

But in what way is he an amazing dad and partner if he's always on his phone?

[nc1234567]

@Aquamarine1029 I have thought about it, he has said previously his friend and wife have a no phone in the bedroom rule which I think is a good idea, I just don't want to cause an argument over it

@RainbowWish I'm so glad I'm not alone in it sometimes I think I'm over reacting but it's just too much, DP is exact same I have started doing that just not saying anything at all but then because im not, I'm then the issues drives me mad! I will come up to bed and rather than come up for a cuddle or a chat he will sit downstairs on his phone for a good 2 hours,.. I agree I just which he could see it from another perspective of what it comes across like!

[nc1234567]

@MyBrilliantDisguise I just don't think spending a lot of time on your phone warrants someone to not be classed as a good dad, he gives dd a lot of attention etc, it's the times, places and situations he chooses to use his phone, for example we will be sat having dinner together and he will sit on the phone, on the sofa watching a film/having a cuddle he will be on the phone

[Aquamarine1029]

If you can't talk about a problem how do you possibly think you can find a solution?

[brapbrapbrap]

YES!!!! I feel your pain. It's got so bad that I've sat him down and said he's destroying our relationship. After MONTHS of telling him how much it depresses me, I finally flipped and shouted at him to put his f**king phone down or I was going to smash it. All in front of my 2 year old who burst into tears . Not proud of that, but I just can't put up with it any longer.

[gg1234]

Phone and internet is a big problem these days .ITs not uncommon and unfortunately Partners don't understand. COMMUNICATION is the key .You have to explain to your partner and manage expectation with him

[IhaveapenIhavepineapple]

If one there was an app that counted how many hours he used it to show him reality.

There are several, search for phone usage apps.

I sympathise OP, my DP is the same. Never bloody listens to me or DC.

[Hairgician]

We have a blanket ban on all gadgets including tv in bedroom. More to do with said items disrupting sleep.
My dp is same as in self emp and relies on fb and email and messaging for dealing with clients. Drives me demented. I've also banned phones from the table at meal times. Nothing as rude.