Please could you tell me about your experiences in blending families.
I have a 5 yr old DS, DP has 2 children; 13 and 4 both are DSs.
The two little ones squabble and fall out and then make up and can play nicely for a few hours. They aren't constantly arguing, they do like each other.
There is one upmanship from my DS to his youngest DS. It winds DP up a lot and he makes it clear that he is annoyed by it by not really warming to my DS.
Conversely his DS is very loud, which my DS has told me he doesn't like so he feels frustrated at times. I feel as though they both equally bring there less than desirable traits to the party but I figure they are small children trying to get on and find their way with each other.
Obviously kids bickering isn't pleasant for anyone but I have got to know his children so I can let these things go over my head but he is always on pins when we are all together. Which makes me feel uptight so generally the time when we're all together is fairly stressful for both of us.
I feel as though my DS gets the shitty end of the stick when it comes to being blamed for the agro. Don't get me wrong, he can be a little shit, I'm not saying he's perfect by any means but I feel a resentment that this is happening.
When it is just DP and me it's amazing and things feel so wonderful. But I'm not sure that's enough. DP is loving and open most of the time but he is closed off and distant when the small children are around.
I only have my DS for half the week and he has his all the time so I have been able to get to know his children more than DP has mine.
Do you think we can move forward or does the kids bickering in the early stages (met DP last Dec and kids met in April) mean it is doomed if DP can't lose his negative opinion of my DS.
Thank you.
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LongDaysHotNights · 30/10/2017 11:54
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