It's starting to get on my tits now. I think I'm just in need of a vent really as I'm not sure what I can actually do to resolve this problem...
Generally, I really get on with my family, as does DH. I'm very lucky. We all live within walking distance, see each other regularly, help each other out, socialise and genuinely like and get on with one another. Not including children, there are 6 couples, which includes me & DH. My parents are another of the couples. However, for the umpteenth time, we are the only couple to have been left out of a family gathering that everyone else was invited to.
We are the 'baby' couple (ie. the other couples are my parents or aunts & uncles). Having said that, we are in our 40s so we're not exactly crazy party animals liable to trash the house or anything!! We're not really that much younger than 2 of the couples so it's not a generational thing either.
Today, there was a lunch at one of the couple's houses as one of the cousins is back from uni. We weren't invited. We only found out as we saw my parents this evening and they mentioned it.
Apparently, they arrived at the gathering and host aunt said 'Oh, is Luckiest & family not with you?' My mum said 'No, erm, because you didn't invite her...' which was met with puzzled looks...I think there was an assumption we'd know about the gathering via osmosis or telepathy or something.
I don't think it's a malicious thing. Just a thoughtless one. There's an assumption that someone will tell us but we're feeling very much like an afterthought. And frankly, it's starting to piss me off. This isn't the first time. In fact, this exact same thing happened only about 6 weeks ago - I eventually questioned (nicely) whether we were in fact, invited to a family BBQ. I was met with puzzled looks, tinkly laughs and mock offended 'Well, of COURSE you are!! How silly!!' comments...
Honestly, do we smell or something?! It's not that hard, is it, to send a text? We have well-behaved kids, get on very well with everyone, don't get too drunk or obnoxious, always contribute food/drink and don't take the piss...
I think our only 'crime' is our age. Possibly my relatives still think of us as the 'kids' (this is what we're sometimes still referred to...I'm in my 40s for god's sake...) so overlook us.
I'm not really sure what to do about this. Possibly not much really. Good to offload though. Sigh. It is a bit crap though.
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Left out of family gathering, yet again
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theluckiest · 29/10/2017 21:35
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