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I reported her missing to the police on Wednesday after going NC 13 years ago. I spoke to her briefly on the phone 6 years ago. I went NC because she was incredibly toxic and angry. When I spoke to her briefly on the phone she sounded like a complete stranger.
She has had really bad mental health problems since she was a child after being in the care system and horrifically sexually abused. She never knew what a healthy relationship was.
I contacted the police after I asked around her family and no one had heard of her in years and that she had dissapeard of the face of the earth. She had tried to commit suiside a few times and I couldn't stop thinking maybe she wasn't even alive anymore
Police found her within 20 mins and got her to text me (well her neighbour did)
She just sounded so bloody normal and greatful I went up to see her today.
I was taken back when I seen her, she is only in her mid fifties but looks a lot older, has teeth missing. She was always a very attractive lady who took care of herself. Life had certainly kicked the fuck out of her.
She had a nice little flat and is on medication that seems to be agreeing with her. She speaks to an elderly lady next door and that's it. Five years she has lived like that.
She was over the moon at my kids as I took them and was happy but I could see she was absolutely fractured. I think really bad stuff has happened to her in recent years too.
On the way drive home I had a bit cry because she has clearly been really poorly and life hasn't been kind to her.
I feel protective over her just of that visit but also feel really apprehensive about having her back in my life. I don't know if it's too much for me to handle with my perfect little life, house, bloke and kids.
I've invited her to xmas lunch
She was very nervous when we met but she could have contacted me at any point she wanted. How can some one live like that? No contact with anyone?
Just finding it hard to process that this bolshy, aggressive, woman is now just broken old lady. She looks damaged
Any advice ?
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Ninjawarriorfan · 28/10/2017 19:58
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