Hello,
It appears I've been ghosted after a happy 4 year LDR (mostly LD). I have some property at his that I'd like back.
I was hoping for some advice on how to get my stuff back when exDP won't engage at all.
I've emailed and texted suggesting some dates for me to collect and had radio silence.
His phone is ringing so I assume he is alive and well at least! he seems not to be answering withheld numbers.
Probably in case it's me which is really bloody sad and annoying. I've been very polite in my correspondence and haven't messaged or called excessively.
I have a key but understand that it may amount to trespass or leave me open to breach of the peace accusations if I just let myself in. I can't afford any trouble due to my job so really want to avoid entering his flat without consent. I don't think he would kick off but this whole episode is so out of character. The character I thought I knew anyway.
We don't really have truly mutual friends, rather we are friendly with each other's mates and I don't want to involve his family.
I was thinking of contacting one friend of his who lives near him and I have always got on well with to try and get confirmation of when I can collect my stuff but I don't have his email / phone details and never added him on Facebook (don't use it much). If I send him a fb message is it likely to go into the 'other' folder and never be read? is there a way of ensuring that doesn't happen? Obviously it'd be pretty embarrassing using a go between but better than being arrested.
His flat is about 4 hours away so a bit too far and expensive just to go and knock on without confirming he'll let me in or doesn't mind me letting myself in.
If be really grateful if anyone has any other suggestions!
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Ghosted! How do I get my stuff back?
Superspooky · 28/10/2017 16:41
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