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Dating sites

(8 Posts)
juwayriyyah31 Fri 27-Oct-17 23:24:03

I've never been on dating sites but I've read up a lot of threads where people meet on sites like tinder...
Isn't it scary meeting someone online as you don't really know what they are going to be like in person or what if they do something scary in person for the first time?where would you meet up

Farontothemaddingcrowd Fri 27-Oct-17 23:25:12

You meet somewhere public, preferably for a coffee so you can get away quickly if you don't get on. Chat a bit online and get to know a bit about them. Maybe do a phone chat.

Smeaton Fri 27-Oct-17 23:35:54

Get WhatsApp.
Join Site with recent pictures and clear profile.
Decide exactly what you want out if it relationship wise.
Decide exactly what type of person you want to meet.
Develop a thick skin.
Message people through site first.
When you're comfortable swap WhatsApp numbers.
First meets should be public, local, where you feel safe... Do not compromise on this. If someone wants you to meet somewhere you don't want to go... Tell them to fuck right off.
If anyone gives you an ultimatum of any sort, tell them to fuck right off.
Learn how to block on WhatsApp.
Learn how to block in phone.
Learn how to block on websites.

LoveforPGTipsMonkey Fri 27-Oct-17 23:54:16

Smeaton, I wish we all knew EXACTLY what type if person we want to meet - if it was that simple, online dating would've had a much higer success rate! Some people seem to know and write long lists of boxes to tick - again, good luck to them!
OP yes it's a bit risky, but with social media it'a easier now to find out a bit about the person if you meet and like them, and get to know their social media details. But yeah no guarantee that they ar not very boring or aggressive etc until you meet. If you met someone in a bar, you still take a risk.

juwayriyyah31 Sat 28-Oct-17 08:48:26

Thank you to all for replying. I guess you never know what someone is really like until you get married and live together

pingu73 Sat 28-Oct-17 08:54:11

I met my now husband in a dating site x

TheNaze73 Sat 28-Oct-17 10:07:53

Never done online dating but, if I was single, I’d give it a go I think,

Tinder, has a bad rep but, my male colleagues at work who are on it, have lots of success on it.

TammyswansonTwo Sat 28-Oct-17 13:01:45

Make sure someone knows where you're going. Ask them to make a checking in call half an hour in so you can make an excuse to leave if needed. Meet in a public place where you feel safe and that you know well and is easy for you to get home from safely. Meet during the day initially. Most people on the internet are normal people like yourself and if you take some basic precautions you'll be absolutely fine. Listen to your intuition, if something feels off, trust your gut. Remember you don't owe anyone your time or attention. You don't owe anyone a response. I'm a people pleaser so online dating would be disastrous for me!

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