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My names Andy. I’m a guy 35. From West Yorkshire in the uk.
I have been in a relationship for the past 3-4 years. We have been hitting rough patches over the past year on and off and I’m beginning to question our relationship and longjevity of it.
Don’t get me wrong I love her, but I don’t feel as I’m love with her as I once did. The quirky things aren’t as good as what they used to be and we seem to fall out over more things than we used to.
We have once been through a rough patch when she gave me an ultimatum about getting married. She basically said if you don’t marry me before I’m 30 I’ll go find someone who will. This turned my world upside down.
However since I’ve been thinking about the issues with our relationship I’ve been having anxiety issues. The seem to be mainly focused around being old than I wanted to be when having children.
I suppose you could say I’m disappointed my life hasn’t turned out the way I hoped it would and now I’m worried about having children in my late thirties will mean I miss out on other things I wanted to do. Such as travel when I retired etc.
So what I want to know from you lovely people is what you think I should do. It’s a massive dilemma. Does anyone think that I’m being daft worrying about having children in my late 30’s or not? I have friends who have had children later and they say “age is just a number” and I’m impressed by their atttitude towards life and I would love to be more like them but just could do with everyone’s thoughts....
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Willing2acceptAdvice · 24/10/2017 22:56
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