It's very very hard to explain my 13 year old dd. I know her strops are a part of her age etc but I can't reason with her.
She doesn't like the word no! Eventually when she realises I'm not going to back down she hates me. She says awful things. Then she says I love her sister (my youngest dd) more than her. I let her sister do this, I let her sister do That, I don't shout at her sister. My youngest dd is so loving and caring and just doesn't complain. She understands life doesn't always go to plan and appreciates things. She obviously has her little strops but overall is mild mannered and lovely company.
Some days I'm anxious around my 13 year old dd. The smallest thing will set her off. Like I have cooked the wrong thing for tea, she wants chocolate, why can't her friend stay over again (they stay over), it's so hard to explain. Everything is a battle which brings me to why I'm posting.
My dd is also over weight and recently I have noticed faint stretch marks on her tummy. I have tried the gym, dance class, walking with her, encouraging healthy choices, we have cried together, she has been bullied and I have told her I can help her but she has to listen to me. She gets angry with me. She wont stick to any of it. She secretly eats. I find wrappers in her bag. She has absolute melt downs like a 2 year old if I say she can't have something.
I am not home until 5.30 most days so she let's herself in. I stopped buying rubbish ages ago but she will make cereal, eat bread, cheese, ham, anything she can. It's like it's all she wants to do is eat. I prepare snacks, buy fruit but she doesn't listen.
On weekends I try to stay active with them but she wants to see her friends. She gets angry because all her friends have money. I explain why as she spends it on rubbish.
I didn't want to take it all away as my youngest enjoys a treat so I stuck to weekend only treats. If I gave her money, she buys rubbish. Nothing works.
I'm desperate to help her but exhausted too :(
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A difficult 13 year old dd! Over weight and I need help :(
cupcakesmakeyouhappy · 24/10/2017 08:04
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