This feels bizarre that I've taken to a website to try and sort this one out but here goes!
I don't mind my kids having TV or computer games if they've been outside for most of the day - playing, running around etc. Or if we're inside playing games, doing homework, messing around etc.
My husband has a different idea. He works hard so he's tired and will give the kids TV and laptops all the time. I think he does this to keep them quiet and because it earns him easy brownie points.
It causes massive arguments in our house. Full blown shouting at each other. And I don't know how to handle it any longer.
Today I took the kids out and we had a great day, no computers or TV until we got home, late afternoon. When H got home I asked him not to give them the iPad as they had had enough and were tired and could go to bed. Later on I realised he had given them the iPad at bedtime, after I had spent time reading them a story and settling them.
This is a daily occurrence.
I don't even think its the issue anymore, it just seems to be a way to undermine me. I feel like I put all the effort into making sure the kids have a fun and healthy lifestyle and he puts in zero effort. My DS has a mobile car kit that he has had for ages - and he can' be bothered to make it with him. I regularly leave it on the table and it just sits there.
It really, really upsets me. I often feel like a single parent. I'm trying to broach the subject of taking a holiday next year but he won't even book time off work at the moment despite me asking for the past two months for some dates.
I just don't get it. It seems so trivial but I know deep down that its probably making bigger issues.
Any advice on handling this parenting style clash would be amazing.
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RachelBee · 23/10/2017 23:05
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