I posted about a year ago (but probably under a different username) about my MIL treating myself and her son so badly, which culminated in abusive messages from her and my BIL. My DH made the decision that he wanted to go NC I struggled because I hated seeing my DH suffering so much and tried to reach out to my MIL but only received hateful messages back. I received really good and supportive advice on here but now I’m really at the end of my tether
DH received the occasional card on birthdays and at Christmas, even our anniversary as if nothing had happened but refusing to acknowledge my existence. Now she has started leaving voicemails on his phone. He doesn’t want any contact with her due to emotional and very occasional physical abuse when he was growing up, along with the way she and her other son have treated us. I contacted her stating that we did not want any further communication from her. I have had multiple messages back from her stating that I have ruined her relationship with her sonThen the guilt trip about how we will be sorry when she is dead and I am to blame for ruining everything.
She says that the only way she will leave us alone is if DH phones or meets with her to say he doesn’t want contact. The text message he sent doesn’t count apparently because I clearly must have stolen his phone and sent it behind his back.
DH and I want nothing more to do with her but how can we convince her to leave us alone if he won’t tell her? I am doing my best to support him but the constant character assassination is wearing me down and leaving me incredibly depressed. I am at my wit’s end and dread her turning up on our doorstep. I am yet again feeling like a scapegoat and the worst person in the world when all I want is to live in peace with DH
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A year on from NC with MIL
RustyPaperclips · 23/10/2017 21:59
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