Hi, my husband and I have been together 15 years, married for 3. We have spoke about starting a family but are both not sure if we want children. I am 31 he is 33.
We discussed it recently and he said we should wait until my sister gets married in March 2018 and then look towards making a decision. I just don't think I will be ready by that point to make that sort of decision.
He is worried about being an older dad and has said he wouldn't like to be any older than 35 by the time he has his first if we decide we want them, but I would like to wait until I am about 35 before I make that decision which would make him 37. I have always kind of liked the idea of having children with him but I don't know whether it is something I actually want in reality. We have a good life and love going on holiday and nights out etc. One of my main worries is that he would resent me and the child if we ever had one.
Is it normal to feel like this?
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Don't know if I want children
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Spacebound · 23/10/2017 19:51
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