I may be one of the dumb women here who forgive a cheating H too easily but here goes. H had an emotional affair and we briefly separated. Their “relationship” is over (mutual) and we are considering reconciling. He is still in “withdrawal” from her, is depressed and anxious which is very hurtful to me and makes me wonder if I am a total fool for trying. He also says he loves me, is sorry it happened, sorry it hurt me and doesn’t know why he is feeling like this right now or why he is so confused. I know all cheaters say this so maybe I am being tricked. I am trying to be understanding and really want it to work for a lot of reasons but his doubts have me having doubts. Strangely we have also connected in a way we haven’t done for a long time since their relationship ended and have talked about what happened (an intense emotional connection with a lot of highs and a lot of lows/drama). I don’t really know what I am asking but need to get it out because it is so emotionally draining, one minute it feels we are going to be great, the next he is clearly pining for her and is miserable.
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