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I was having a v serious chat with a friend who's pregnant and her partner is being a bit shit and whilst I'm very sympathetic I'm also a long way past the baby stage (by two decades) and find it hard to relate. Anyway got me thinking about what irritates me about my husband and the issues are so different but drive me crazy! He made us late to our niece's birthday party last night because he spent so long fixing the bathroom door. He takes way too long over his personal hygiene. He won't let me near the washing, that's all his department. He can't relax so always has to have diy to do. What are your irrational annoyances?
This conversation with my sister led to her admitting she was cross with her partner that he spent an hour cleaning the living room. I dread to think what my husband's ones about me are!
People who cannot park easily. People who cannot navigate, read maps or even remember journeys they have done hundreds of times. My DM leaves the butter and the milk out to go off, then gets pissed off at you for suggesting it might have gone bad in the 12 hours its been sat on the side in the sunshine. People who are slow to get ready. DP will just have to put his shoes on and close the front door but I once timed him and it took 12 minutes while I waited in the car. People who are instantly prickly when you speak to them.
The map reading and parking I have some sympathy for as I find those things easy so I understand not everyone does. The rest is just dick-ish.
Oooh driving. My husband's driving irritates the shit out of me!!! But, I can't do motorways anymore (panic attacks) so rely on him massively if we go away so have to slag him off in my head
People crunching food really loud, picking their nails, saying they'll phone you or meet up with you at X time but arrive 20 mins late no apology, i could go on
Tammy - i was trying to be light hearted. I do have very real shit going on in my life, as does my sister, very very real but we were laughing about the stuff that shouldn't annoy us but does, which in the grand scheme of things makes us chuckle - perhaps our sense of humour is different to yours but I know with my family and friends we can say this stuff.
Everything and everybody.....I am going through the menopause so could be down to that .....I used to be very laid back but now am like a different person....
My dp was obviously born in a fucking field. He doesn't understand the concept of closing doors. Always leaves cupboard doors open in kitchen. And leaves front door or car door wide open in the winter - fucking close it over and keep the heat in! And he uses every cup and spoon in the house rather than just rinse the ones hes used.
I get annoyed very easy, i have learned to just bite my tongue. Can't stand people eating loudly, I get the rage. Silly names people call their children. People trying to be posh.
The inability to answer yes or no to a questio, or answer a question. With another unnecessary one.
Oh God yes! What do you want for tea? Don't know, what do YOU want?
Do you want to go out? Don't know, where do YOU want to go?
What do you want to watch on TV? Don't know, do YOU want to watch something?
It's so predictable. It gives me the absolute rage. I did tell him that this passivity was an issue. He said "What do YOU think we should do about it...?"
He takes way too long over his personal hygiene. He won't let me near the washing, that's all his department. He can't relax so always has to have diy to do.
OP Do I know you? this sounds exactly like my best friend's father.
Maybe not - but to let you know he had a late life diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome.
I get the not answering a question. My mother went through a spell of not answering me if I asked bet if she would me a drink. I took it as a no and amazingly she answers me now! I get asked the same question over and over again, I've started to answer it no more than 3 times now, after that I reply the answer is the same as it was the last time you asked me and the time before that and the time before that. Groups of people who stand at the top of an escalator together, blocking the exit or entry. Why oh why?
People who stop dead in front of you when out and about.
People who wait til they are at the checkout and paying for the shopping before rummaging in their purse for their fucking 100s of money off coupons. Gives me the rage
And YES YES YES to @Pithivier's answering a question with a question. Why?!
And his habit of asking me a direct question, but the second I start to respond, saying "hang on" and pausing me mid-word. Fucking don't ask me questions if you are busy concentrating on something else you enormous twat!
It has crossed my mind. I doubt we know each other - his children are only 13 and 16. But yes, he has traits I wonder if will eventually lead him to discover he does have aspergers or similar but thats another thread!!
I have realised after 5 years, if I need him to be somewhere at a certain time, I just need to add half an hour on. Sorted.
Slow walkers!! I am such a fast walker, DH is 6'4 and I am over a foot shorter so I have learnt to walk fast over the years!!
