Hi all. I am posting on here because I am all over the place at the moment trying to process what has happened.
I met a lovely guy about 2 months ago and we hit it off straight away. Both of us are in our 40s. He was married before but has no children. I was married before as well and have 3 kids. I was very upfront with him from the start and he knew I had kids. We had a few lovely dates and both of us seemed to enjoy every minute we spent together. He was making long term plans, was talking about introducing me to his family and friends, was sending me “Good morning” messages without fail. We were messaging throughout a day and he would call me every night and we would talk for hours. Everything seemed to be going well. I didn’t want to rush into anything and thought that we would take it slow and let the relationship develop its course. He said that he wanted to meet my children when I was ready. I thought that meeting them during half term might be a good idea and suggested that. He was very enthusiastic about this and even booked an afternoon off work to meet them. I didn’t feel that something was going wrong or there were any issues as he was very affectionate and lovely. Then suddenly I got a message from him saying that we shouldn’t be seeing each other anymore as I am not right for him long term and it wouldn’t be right for him to meet my kids. He also said he wanted to have a break and then he would want to start a family of his own.
I am so confused. Why want to meet my kids - I would have been happy to wait a bit longer. Why make long term plans (it was him making the plans , not me)? Do you thing he got cold feet thinking “I am taking on a woman with three kids”? He was telling me that he won the lottery because he met me etc. Why make me believe that we have a future and then end it like this through the text all of a sudden? I just do not understand. Is it because I have children and he doesn’t and he couldn’t cope with the reality of meeting them and being around children ? I know that he didn’t meet anybody else. He seemed to be a really genuine guy and I started to fall in love with him so it hurts like hell at the moment.
What do you think?
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Why did he end the relationship?
Whitestuff22 · 22/10/2017 10:11
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