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If your gf was having a miscarriage...

(23 Posts)
OhShit2017 Thu 19-Oct-17 21:50:55

You’d probably at least send a text to see if she’s ok, right?

Told my bf this morning that I had started bleeding (a lot). Couldn’t really talk properly as he was in the car with his ds. Haven’t heard anything from him since then. Think this has to be the final straw for me. I know he will have been out all day until the evening and he has no credit on his phone, but he would have got home a couple of hours ago and still nothing.

Biddylee Thu 19-Oct-17 22:12:20

I would expect him to have called.

ifeeltheneedtheneedforspeed Thu 19-Oct-17 22:14:42

I would have expected to him to come see me.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Be kind to yourself.

NewLove Thu 19-Oct-17 22:16:40

I would have expected him to be there as soon as he could. My ex left me bleeding and cramping in the ensuite while he went to bed and slept sad

fussygalore118 Thu 19-Oct-17 22:17:06

Called? Wtf is he not with you? A phone call is the minimum I'd expect but reslly there are only a couple of things i can think of as good excuses for him not being there with you... deployed/ lives away with other children ...but really its piss poor for no contact.

I could not be with anyone who had such little care for me.

OhShit2017 Thu 19-Oct-17 22:21:53

He has children and is a single dad, however he only has the 2 older ones tonight who he could easily have left for a few hours.

Or you know, just phoned...or something. I guess I now know he really does give absolutely zero fucks about me.

T00ManyB00ks Thu 19-Oct-17 22:23:44

Have you got someone who can be with you op?

OhShit2017 Thu 19-Oct-17 22:25:28

No, my neighbour is close by if I need her. I’m ok, bleeding quite a lot but the pain isn’t too bad becuase I took some strong codeine.

OhShit2017 Fri 20-Oct-17 01:07:07

Still nothing at all from him. What an absolute arse.

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 20-Oct-17 01:38:31

I am so sorry this is happening to you OP. thanks Have you been to the hospital?

OhShit2017 Fri 20-Oct-17 01:39:47

No, I’ve got to go in tomorrow. I spoke to EPU earlier on.

Oxcheeks Fri 20-Oct-17 01:47:13

OhShit I'm so sorry to read this, I've been through a miscarriage I hope all works out for you, your OH is a complete shit (as was my ex-H who told me that he didn't think that he was the dad after having a miscarriage due to the nurse questioning the date - there was no heart beat after 6 weeks) men are fuckwits

OhShit2017 Fri 20-Oct-17 01:51:43

I’ll be ok. He’s been pretty shit since I found out I was pg in a number of ways. This is the final straw, I’m so done with him. If he ever actually bothers to get in touch I will be telling him!

Oxcheeks Fri 20-Oct-17 01:59:34

Stay strong hunny xx you don't need someone like that in your life PM me if you need support xx

Bruceishavingfish Fri 20-Oct-17 06:23:37

I hope you are ok this morning. Well probably not ok. But as best you can be.

flowers for you

GeekyWombat Fri 20-Oct-17 06:26:52

Thinking of you today Oh.

So sorry this is happening to you.

tillytown Fri 20-Oct-17 06:35:24

No advice, just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you flowers

Fitzsimmons Fri 20-Oct-17 06:55:33

I think he's shown you his true colours, but I'm so sorry that you have had to find out this way. I hope you are OK this morning.

ScarletSienna Fri 20-Oct-17 06:59:44

The physical pain is hard enough with miscarriage but the emotional heartache is awful. I can’t see how anyone couldn’t realise this so for him to not contact you is terrible.

GinnyBaker Fri 20-Oct-17 07:00:57

i hope you managed to get some sleep, OP. I'm sorry you are going through this. You deserve so much better. flowers

OhShit2017 Fri 20-Oct-17 09:44:28

Sent him a sarcastic message before I went to sleep thanking him for his concern. He replied at 5am apologising, saying he’d got in late, cooked dinner and then fallen asleep. Not even any sort of good excuse! Doesn’t take long to send a message, if he cared he would have done that. He obviously didn’t even think of me. Have told him I want him out of my life, hopefully meeting him later to get my stuff and the money he owes me and that’s that.

broccolicheesebake Fri 20-Oct-17 11:55:35

Yes I'd have expected some care and concern. I went away with stbxh when I was 10 weeks pregnant with DD1. I'd had alot of bleeding throughout but whilst were away I lost quite alot of blood. I told DH and said I was going back to room to rest. He stayed at the pub drinking whilst I went back alone confused. Not sure why it's taken me another 9 years to divorce the prick

TheWorldIsMyCakePop Fri 20-Oct-17 12:53:45

Goodness me. DH (then BF) didn't leave my side and went to hospital with me for my D&C

I'm glad you've realised what he's like now and hope you find someone decent. Good luck with the process you'll be going through. Hope you have some friends or family who can look after you.

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