So this is actually a really really long story I've written a couple of posts about this but it's not worth reading back I've just got one Q I really can't get off my mind. I'll just give a quick run down
So me and my ex were friends for years, we'd been seeing each other for about a year up until two months ago. We were best friends in the whole world but for various reasons, it ended. (ended because basically he started hanging round with a group of people i completely didn't approve of, he completely changed but has since started going back to his normal self/ stopped hanging round with the people) We have been seeing each other/sleeping together since then. I'm also 15 weeks pregnant which I found out a could of weeks after we "officially" split up. He was not happy at all about me being pregnant begged me to get rid of it.
There's been a whole other load of mess to do with that as well no need for me to go into it, I'll get straight to the point.
I want to keep the baby, he says if I do he'll cut all contact with me never speak to me again, he will hate me forever, his family will want nothing to do with the baby, he's going to leave the country and all this other stuff (I know he sounds like a total dickhead but he hasn't always been this way and though it's really really hard to imagine he is actually my best friend in the whole world and the thought of completely losing him out my life is heartbreaking. I don't really have anyone else apart from a couple of friends I rarely speak to and my family. I really have never felt such a strong connection with someone. But, There's no way I'm getting an abortion just for the sake of getting back with him.
Is there any chance he's going to snap out of this? He gets so so nasty about it like completely turns into a different person. If I didn't keep the baby I have no doubt in my mind we'd end up getting back together. Why does the baby terrify him so much? Why does he say it's going to make him HATE me if I have the baby? He just cannot see straight when we discuss me keeping it he sees red completely.
(Also a side note. I have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship, my ex lived with us, very very happily and he loved acting as a father figure to him and my son saw him as a dad)
So what is with the hatred for this new baby? It's really tearing me up. Of course I know eventually I'm just going to have to let it go and move on with my life without him but I just want some opinions, any chance he's going to change his mind?
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dazedandconfuse · 19/10/2017 20:51
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