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Straying thoughts

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HolYee Thu 19-Oct-17 08:30:03

Hey girls, I'm in a bit of a mess. I've been with my partner for over three years now but I having thoughts about other guys, at the gym, in the street, on TV. I can't help it. I'm also 31 now so it feels like I should be settling down. I know that he wants to and I love him and we'd both be heartbroken if we split up. We're living together now which I love but I find it hard sometimes not being able to spend as much time out with my friends. The last straw I guess and the reason I'm here is last night I was touching myself with him asleep next to me after he was a bit too tired for some fun. This is the first proper relationship I've had. Can I work through this?
Thank you

User02 Thu 19-Oct-17 13:45:07

Different sex drive levels?

rumred Thu 19-Oct-17 14:08:16

Being 31 doesn't mean you have to get married, have kids, settle down etc. Anything you want to do is OK, I don't mean cheating but leaving a relationship that has passed its sell by date is OK.
If you are unsure about what you want,
consider counselling and or talking to a friend about your feelings

ferando81 Thu 19-Oct-17 14:38:48

If you love him don't cheat on him

HolYee Thu 19-Oct-17 15:56:13

Thank you everyone. I think I do have a higher sex drive but I can control it. What I really get tempted by is the rush from getting with someone else. I know that's terrible but for example when I'm having a massage (which I don't tell my bf about because I know he would be jealous) I just think about the excitement when the massage guy touches me..

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