My dad has always been a complete and utter arsehole. He has had problems with drink for as long as I can remember, he's been for help many times but just can't seem to get his act together.
I'm 23 weeks pregnant and after finding out I was having a boy, he was over the moon. He always seemed a bit put out he had 3 girls and no sons but as he's been separated from my mother since I was 6 and never turned up for contact on account of the fact he was drunk, I never felt like I missed out on anything. My mother and her family more than compensated for anything I wanted or needed.
He had a big birthday recently and that also coincided with him moved closer to us again for work. He has been drunk every night since his birthday, texting me to chat shit and has generally seemed quite excited about having a grandson.
But last night he started demanding the baby be named after him and that I give the baby my last name to 'continue his line on' as he 'could only have girls'. When I refused (dp and I intend to get married and I want to take his name as I have hated my last name as long as I can remember) he then got on the offensive and started bombarding me with messages trying to convince me to double barrel, not to be old fashioned and change my name when there is no need.
What's pissing me off most is that if the baby had been a girl he wouldn't have cared less and he's pulling this big man shit because it's a boy.
After all this harassment, I then received a message (and texts he's been sending to othe people) about how he wants nothing to do with the baby, he doesn't want to see him when he's born and that he doesn't want grandchildren at all.
I am being unreasonable to go no contact? I haven't said anything to him yet and don't really know what to say. It's just made me realise he's a bigger dickhead than I thought.
Sorry it's long!
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Do I cut contact with my dad?
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Grimmfebruary · 19/10/2017 08:27
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