DH has anger issues

[hazbaz]

Please help me, I can't think straight. I've just got home from a night out to have my 6 yo tell me (when I woke him for a wee) that his dad punched a hole in the wall because DS "accidentally" threw a sock at him. He has never hit me but he does have anger issues, we have 2 boys. I have to make him do something don't i? This is not what normal people do is it?!

[gamerchick]

No it isnt.

He frightened your bairn. You know what to do.

[MyBrilliantDisguise]

She's right. You know what to do. Children come first.

[BetterGoNowMary]

He doesn't have anger issues, he is abusive. What you have described is abuse.

[Wolfiefan]

No it's not what normal people do. You know that.

[fc301]

I would think if he can punch a hole in a wall in response to a flying sock then none of you are safe there. Sorry.

[hazbaz]

Oh god, I'm so scared I feel sick. I keep pretending to everyone that everything is ok & I feel so stupid & alone

[Venusflytwat]

Ok. Try not to freak out, I know that sounds impossible. You can make a plan, you CAN get out of this.

What could your first step be?
Do you own/rent?
Are you married?
Do you have supportive friends or family nearby?
Does he?

[hazbaz]

I'm going to see my mum on Fri, she lives 200 miles away, for some of half term so I get some headspace.

[hazbaz]

He's not British so no family nearby.