Taking a break

[RiceButt]

This might sound drastic, but has anyone ever taken baby/child away without notice for a bit of breathing space?

I'm seriously considering booking a few days away just me and baby to think away from the home, but not to tell DH so I wouldn't be there when he returned from work, just leave a note and go.

[cupcakesmakeyouhappy]

Maybe it would be a good idea to explain to dh how you're feeling? I'm sure he would understand.
I know sometimes life gets a bit busy and we feel overwhelmed but how would you feel if dh did that to you?
You could still take a few days away.....

[jeaux90]

It spends on the situation. I was in an abusive relationship with a young baby and I did just that. When I came back I made a plan and moved out.
Are you ok? Not in any danger I hope.

[jeaux90]

Depends doh!

[RiceButt]

Im not in any danger. Recently diagnosed with PND and just feel DH is not supportive. I feel as though things are slipping away, a break in my career (which I'm coming to terms with), my relationship with DH etc etc. I guess I just feel like running away and burying my head in the sand.

[HeddaGarbled]

Under those circumstances, he'd be worried about your safety and that of your child, wouldn't he?

Are you getting any support from medical professionals? Family apart from your H?

[magoria]

If you are recently diagnosed with PND and dissappear do not be surprised if your DH calls the police worried you may harm yourself and your baby.

He/they may contact friends and family and they will all be worried sick.

At least leave a note explaining.

[cupcakesmakeyouhappy]

RiceButt have you spoken to your gp? I had PND and didn't seek help and it spiralled. Please talk to someone, there is help and support out there.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Tell him.

[Cricrichan]

I'd feel sick if my dh took off with the kids without discussing with me first. At least call him and explain.

[KityGlitr]

No, you can't just take somebody's child away without telling them/ensuring they're okay with it. How would you feel if you got home and your husband had taken your child somewhere and not asked you first or told you where he'd gone? Worried sick, I assume?

It would come across as attention seeking at best to not even tell him, nasty and designed to hurt him at worst. You need to use your words and have a conversation about what's wrong and how you feel and if you need some space, you need to do it properly letting him know when/where/why and for how long.

[RiceButt]

I wouldn't just go without telling him, I'd discuss it with him or leave a note.

I have support from GP and Health Visitor. I will be mentioning my feelings to HV tomorrow.

[KityGlitr]

"I'm seriously considering booking a few days away just me and baby to think away from the home, but not to tell DH so I wouldn't be there when he returned from work, just leave a note and go."

Sorry, your post isn't clear, you say you wouldn't tell him and then say you'd leave a note?

I don't think a note after leaving is good enough tbh. I reckon you need to discuss it with him properly before going. Or is it the fact that that would remove the shock factor that puts you off the idea of discussing it?

[cupcakesmakeyouhappy]

RiceButt I'm glad you are going to discuss it tomorrow with your hv. Hopefully, it may help. If you left, what would that change? Where would you go? Who would support you? What are you trying to run away from?

[Joysmum]

I’ve left when I thought I’d fall apart if I didn’t. I certainly didn’t take my child with me.

Unfortunately running away didn’t help as I still took me with me. I was the problem, I needed help.