Hello all. I have been trying to deal with DP behavior by being nice and understanding but i think i became a doormat instead.
We are together two years. At start i never saw the angry side of him but few months into the relationship i realized that he gets overly upset over anything and everyone. It became progressively more to take his stress and anger out on me
As an example yesterday he was "stressed" from work and later "angry " with his neighbor because he was making noise. I listened to him as i always do , trying to support him and help him feel better. I tried to tell him about my day(i rarely do ) and he wasnt listening and he said sorry for not talking much but i have my issues here and i am trying not to get angry( about neighbor). I replied that its ok, is not like he ever listens or bothers much with what happens in my life (thats true, he usually just has me to listen to his issues and thats about it), I said i will read the newspaper until he calms down (from the neighbor)
His first reply was that i should go to bed and leave him alone because he doesnt need an argument with all that" he is being going through" . I replied that i didnt do anything wrong and he shouldn't get upset with me . Long story short, he started arguing with me for "causing problems" and "why i can not for once support him". He started screaming on top of his voice that i am trying to cause a problem when he is upset and if i have any issues to wait him to leave for work and then resolve them . He went on and on , trying to intimidate me. My efforts to remind to him that i did nothing to him , i only said one sentence, went wasted . And this is his attitude generaly
I do not know where to draw the line. I am trying to be kind and understanding but how many more times i have to forget everything and blame it on his stress? I know that if i was behaving this way i would feel ashamed and apologize and never do it again. He expects me to be grateful because he "is trying to keep calm for me when he has so many problems".
Any advice please
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where do you draw the line, DP takes his stress/anger out on me and somehow it all becomes my fault
starrynight39 · 17/10/2017 15:45
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