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Ex and the fb account

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southernharp · 17/10/2017 11:47

My ex had always been absolutely anti fb. Recently though the kids told me that he had set up a basic account so he can follow a fb group. I am already in the group and I can see him there. No picture or anything. The account entirely private. I know he always uses the same password and so I had a nose and tried to log on as him, really to check he isn't posting shit about me. When I logged on, it took me to a different account - a name that isn't his and no picture, but with his birth date. Nothing there though. What could the point of that be? Is he up to something? He is a sly twat and so I am highly suspicious

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caringdenise009 · 17/10/2017 11:50

I liked about my birthday to Facebook and didn't put any info on it. I don't see why I should give the free info for them to sell on.

midnightmisssuki · 17/10/2017 11:54

errrrrr - i think you shouldnt be trying to log onto his FB account. Would you be happy if he tried to hack into your account to see if 'youve been posting shit about him?' Confused

midnightmisssuki · 17/10/2017 11:55

Its private becasue he doesnt want any one who isnt his friend to see what he posts - as is his right. Maybe if you really want to know - ask him?

WitchesHatRim · 17/10/2017 11:57

He is a sly twat and so I am highly suspicious

Well calling him sly is a bit ironic considering you have just hacked his fb account.

BitchQueen90 · 17/10/2017 12:00

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Floofd · 17/10/2017 12:00

He's your ex, I really don't see how it's any of your business, even if he is up to something. (What is it you think he's up to?)

I have a couple of friends who set up facebook to join a hobby-related group chat. They literally have their name on there and nothing else- they're only on there to be kept in the loop about events and meet ups. It's not unheard of for people to use a different name so they don't come up if people search etc.

I don't see why you are interested to the extent you hacked his account.

BitchQueen90 · 17/10/2017 12:00

Just saw it's your ex, apologies!

NerrSnerr · 17/10/2017 12:04

Ha ha- he's sly but you're the one logging into his Facebook account.

Just a warning- he's probably on to you. I logged onto fb from my husband's phone last week and I got an email saying that I logged on using Safari in the town we're in to alert me if it was someone else.

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:04

I'm not with him. If I were I would ask him. This is a guy who found a way of forwarding my emails to himself for months and using everything he found to make trouble, who booked a long haul holiday with his secret gf whilst we were still together, who broke into my house whilst I was away to try and find the kids passports. I'm not engaging in the moral rights and wrongs of this, just trying to find out why someone would have a fb account with nothing on it in an entirely different name in an effort to anticipate the next thing that might be coming my way.

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Redcrayons · 17/10/2017 12:07

Presumably so he can see what your doing in the group without you clicking its him.

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:08

And I'm not really bothered if he is on to me. If he would stop being vindictive I would have no need to try and anticipate what is coming next.

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SparklyMagpie · 17/10/2017 12:09

I can't believe you'd go and hack into his account. You must be really insecure to give a shit about what your ex thinks of you Hmm

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:10

But red crayons I don't do anything in the group. It is just a way of keeping up to date on one of the kids activities. And I can see him in the group with his real name, but not with his fake name.

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Redcrayons · 17/10/2017 12:11

Or alternatively he's genuinely interested in what's going on in the group but thinks you'll kick off if you know it's him.

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:11

Sparkly, I do care about what nonsense he is planning next as it is always so mean. Forewarned is forearmed.

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Redcrayons · 17/10/2017 12:13

Hmm can you have one Facebook account and use two different names? Perhaps he has two accounts.

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:13

Red crayons, I don't mind him being in the group. It simply updates times, places arrangements for a kids activity. That's it. No conversations or interaction. And he is in the group in his own name, but he has an alter ego and I am simply wondering about its purpose.

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southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:14

Maybe he does have two accounts. But why would you?

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fantasmasgoria1 · 17/10/2017 12:14

Nothing to add but for some reason you calling him a sly twat made me laugh!

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:16

Fanta, if. I don't out sly him, he is going to destroy me financially and emotionally. I need to keep up my guard until he realises he is on a hiding to nowhere.

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Coconutspongexo · 17/10/2017 12:16

He is allowed Facebook.
You are not allowed to log into his Facebook.
I had a Facebook (years ago) that wasn't in my name to keep up to date on a uni revision group - I didn't want people adding me etc.

PricklyCacti · 17/10/2017 12:18

Just block both names and he won’t be able to see any of your posts.

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ofudginghell · 17/10/2017 12:19

I think the best thing you can do op is step back from the investigating and digging and move on.
Let him have his life he has chosen and accept it so you can let go and move on with your life. All the time your doing what your doing he’s still got a hold on you and you will stay angry and bitter

southernharp · 17/10/2017 12:19

Well he's not allowed to access my emails but he has. How is this any different to gaining access to the phone of a cheating spouse, which is so often advocated on here? When he was cheating on me I took the moral high ground and made no attempt to access his phone. Wish I had now. Just making up for lost time.

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PinkHeart5914 · 17/10/2017 12:21

A sly twat? Yet your the one hacking in to his Facebook account Confused surely you have something better you could be doing with your time?

He is allowed to join Facebook if he wishes and your Not together so I really don’t understand your obsession over this tbh

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