I'm on to practicalities now. He said he is going to move out. He is the earner, and although I work, my wage is minimal, it wouldn't cover the rent for example.
I have been on to a benefit checker website and I can see that with everything I would be entitled to I could remain in our home with the children, however I'm unsure about time frames and the fact that we are married, will this mean I won't be able to claim?
I read on a different thread that as soon as you decide to separate you can apply even if still living together. After all, not everyone would be able to afford to move out straight away but that doesn’t stop you being separated.
You can apply for housing and council tax benefit in advance in some places. Call the council and ask or check the website. It's all done online here, a London borough. I'm not sure if you can apply for tax credits in advance but it's worth getting a firm date when your ex is going and giving HMRC a call to ask for advice. Sorry you are going through this.
Rolling contract or not your landlord cannot just boot you out, you need to be in arrears before they can apply to the courts to start the eviction process. This takes time and hopefully you will be able to apply for housing benefit to cover this before any court orders are in place. Speak to your LL or agent and explain the situation rather than just building up arrears. Many LLs are understanding about a change in circumstance and will allow time for benefits to come through, as long as you have a good history of payment and have been good tenants to date.
Why won't your DCs father be paying child maintenance?
He will need to fund his accommodation, he may do in time but I don't want to rely. Also I'm trying to minimise any source of aggravation to make this as easy on the children as possible, it;s going to be bad enough as it is for them.