I've never had a very good relationship with my mother. I've never been good enough and I've never made the right decisions in her eyes. I was married very early in life and had my daughter at 25. When she found out I was pregnant with my daughter, her exact words to me were "You're a F'ing idiot and you've just wrecked your whole life". At that point my husband and I both had good jobs and were settled into our career choices, we had our own apartment and were comfortable. Once my daughter came into this world, things seemed to get a little bit better and we were able to be in the same room without wanted to scream at each other. She has always been a huge part of my daughters life and for that I am grateful and tell her all the time.
In 2008, my father passed away and things got worse from there. My marriage ended after years and years of abuse in which my mother was aware of but was never willing to help me, she became increasing abusive to me both mentally and physically. Three years ago I met the man of my dreams and 18 months we got a house and I moved away from the city I grow up in. My mother still sees my daughter everyday and i enable their relationship in any way I can. This Saturday was my breaking point and I'm not sure where to go from here. My younger sister had a 40th birthday party for me and invited 20 family members and friends. My mother sat at my party the whole time bad mouthing me and making comments like "She's such a bad kid" and "She's the reason I have all these white hairs".
I'm not sure where to go from here. Do I continue trying to have a relationship with her or should I allow this to be the last straw and cut off contact. HELP.
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Strained relationship with my mother
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Mellie1025 · 16/10/2017 16:07
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