I have never done anything like this before so please forgive me if I ramble on. I have been with my partner just over two years and we have a son who is a little over 3 months. I have never really been confident about my looks but since having a baby I am worse. Not long after giving birth my partner left his Facebook open and I was scrolling through thinking it was mine. (We have the same profile picture) when I saw he had commented on how great this female friend of his looked in her picture. I was crushed as I literally felt rubbish. Since then I looked through his messages once and seen that he is always sharing pictures of porn stars with friends, talking explicitly about what he would do with them. I am a fat frumpy mum who has no time to do my hair or makeup anymore. I can't compare to these women. I have talked about it to my partner and he says he fancies me. I can't accept that.
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I can't accept that my partner wants me.
GemLouBrierley · 16/10/2017 14:50
Being a new mum is the absolute pits in terms of self esteem, as you just never have the time for your appearance like you used to, it always seems to take a back seat! As hard as it is, try and get a bit of 'you' time in - be it one hour a week at the gym/pool/something to get the endorphins going, or get DP to hold the baby for 10 min on a morning so you can put a bit mascara on 
for me I started to go to slimming world around about this time - absolutely not saying that weight loss = increased self esteem because it doesn't work like that, but doing something for me that made me feel better and more human really worked.
pno offence OP but this guy sounds like he lives a 'Single Man' life... he does nothing for you or your DS... he leaving you with low self esteem and morale .. he won't look after his DS to allow you even a few hours to yourself...
I agree with the Poster who asked.. what do YOU get out of loving this man.. what does he bring you emotionally.. mentally and physically.. 
His behaviour is gross (& unfortunately not untypical of ignorant, immature men nowadays, but that doesn't make it in any way acceptable). Who is he talking to? I'm sure their partners would be equally disgusted.
It's sadly not unusu to feel like you feel, too, particularly in the early stages of motherhood (I did). Put the two together & its a toxic combination and is totally unfair on you.
There are so many things you can do, with your DS, which are good for you - swimming, playing in the park or garden, walking with his pushchair and so on.
Book yourself a hair appt when DH can have your DS, as you said yourself he's his son too!
Does your son go on any play dates? Those can be so good for you too, as well as him, either giving you time for yourself or letting you talk to another adult human being!
On a separate note, if your user name is close to your RL name, you'd probably be best changing it, simply to protect your identity now & in future.
Good luck with everything, things will improve
Do not sort yourself out for your hubby!!! He is a vile pig by the sounds of it.
Absolutely do it for yourself though as there is nothing worse than feeling uncomfortable in your own body. Do keep in mind you only had a baby 12 weeks ago, it took 9 months to grow your baby it is very rare for anybody to snap back so quickly.
I doubt If the shoe was on the other foot your hubby would be overly pleased at you complimenting male work colleagues or sending your gf’s pics of well endowed muscle hunks and saying what you’d like to do to them 
. He would deny it of course to justify his behaviour but it’s not acceptable behaviour in a relationship.
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