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Lonleylove Mon 16-Oct-17 10:54:47

I have been with my H 10 years, we have 1 child. Sad to say but in my younger years I wanted the guy I had to chase and my H was him. We never had this great chemistry or got along that well but eveyrtime I was ready to leave he would convince me to stay.
I have worked my current job 3 years and love it. A male coworker that has been employed there 20 years has recently caught my attention. A few months back we was at a meeting and he made a comment that he'd talk to me later, we do case management so didn't think much of it. Then a week or so later I had this dream of him and the next day he called. Just general conversation and for the first time in a long time I felt I could relate to someone. After the initial conversation he'd call probably every other week and we'd chat at meetings with a flirty line here and there. Approximately a month ago we was talking in office and after I left he text me from personal phone which he has never done. Since then I've talked to him probably twice a week on average and it's becoming more flirty. But we are both married. Don't get me wrong we have work conversations as well as personal but I'm liking the attention that I'm not getting at home and feel guilty. I also believe though that it's a fling that'll pass eventually. We are so similar and seem to be dealing with same burdens. The scariest part I expect him to call now and want to see him. Do I get it out of my system and go on or do I beg my husband for what I need at home even though I've been trying for years with no success.

Smeaton Mon 16-Oct-17 10:59:52

Put it this way. Do you want to ruin multiple people's lives for your own selfish crush. Or do you want to use that energy on working it out with husband?

If you're unhappy, leave. Don't justify cheating and try to Drea it up as something else.

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