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Ex and new girlfriend

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toolonginthetooth Mon 16-Oct-17 01:02:34

I haven’t seen or spoken to or done anything of any kind with my ex in over 3 years. We have a small child he refuses to see or have anything to do with. I’m not a part of his life at all and won’t entertain him in mine for anything, he’s dangerous. He’s a highly emotionally abusing man
Anyway last night out the blue I get a notification on my Facebook account at someone liking a post of mine and using the laughing emoticon. Tjis post was about him playing the victim again as at this point he really was making my life a misery for leaving him. This post is over 3 years old hmm anyway clicked on it seems this woman is in a relationship with my ex and has been for 6 months. I don’t care obviously as I have no feelings either way for him and didn’t even know he’d moved on from the last one. I think I know the answer to this but just looking to see if any of you have had the same experience andcwhats your assessment of it all?
I won’t be reacting in anyway I just straight blocked her.

Cavender Mon 16-Oct-17 03:04:51

I don’t have any experience that can help but I would recommend locking down your Facebook settings so that no one but friends can see your posts.

It’s really not a good idea to have your Fb so open.

I suspect she liked it by accident. I agree that ignoring it is the sensible approach.

cakecakecheese Mon 16-Oct-17 09:57:27

I imagine he's told her some nonsense that she's believed.

Anyway just ignore it, delete the original post and review your privacy settings.

NaiceBiscuits Mon 16-Oct-17 10:01:56

I reckon that she was just nosying on your feed and liked it by accident

EverythingEverywhere1234 Mon 16-Oct-17 10:02:09

What a pathetic thing to do. You need to lock down your privacy settings!

Angelf1sh Mon 16-Oct-17 10:23:14

I don’t think it was an error, I’d say she’s probably experiencing something similar to your post right now and that’s why she was looking at your page and that’s why she liked it. Either way I’d say your approach of ignore and block was definitely the right way to go.

Barbaro Mon 16-Oct-17 12:15:22

Bit odd of her to go back all that time to like a post. I wouldnt worry, shows they have more issues than you.

TheNaze73 Mon 16-Oct-17 12:46:52

Ignore, block & don’t you rise to the bait. They sound like saddo’s

toolonginthetooth Mon 16-Oct-17 16:30:17

Hi energise and thanks for your input. Yeah I’d buy an accidental like but it was the laughing emoticon so I believe it’s deliberate. Although the man never laid a hand on me bar once I’m really scared. He keeps some shady company and clearly to me the women he has associated with don’t mind him not seeing his child. That tells me they aren’t really good people. I had a big ton of crap off his crazy ex which now, I can probably guessed he fanned those flames of jealousy. This occurred while we together and after I left him.
She still supports him and what worries me is if they team up. So much has happened since I left like bank accounts being opened in my name and emails from crematoriums etc I have good reason to be scared. I aren’t, haven’t and never will take the bait so they must feel very frustrated.
I’m no threat to her I wouldn’t even give him a conversation let alone anything else.
I blocked and limited my account (already thought I had) so yeah I feel safe there now I’m just so fed up of this

toolonginthetooth Mon 16-Oct-17 16:30:54

Hi everyone I meant not energise

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