Hi :)
I posted on the Red Flag thread with a few red flags that then turned into a bit of a ramble about my awful marriage that I left 6 years ago.
I've been reading lots of threads on here over the last couple of weeks, and wondering about the Freedom Programme then thinking, no, it's years ago now, so I won't bother. Someone on the Red Flag thread mentioned it though so tonight I emailed my local one which is in a town about 20 miles away. I'm hoping the list was up to date and they still do it as I feel it would help me to move forwards.
I also currently work with a man who is charming but I've realised he is a bully. Luckily I only have to work with him once more before a long break. My boss is aware now (it was she in fact who told me that the behaviour I was describing was bullying) but I've only just consciously realised he is a deeply unpleasant man and that I'm very intimidated by him. Over the time of working with him I came to the conclusion that I would never get into a relationship again. I think this was because my subconscious was picking things up that my conscious wasn't.
However, I would like to meet someone. And I think because of this work stuff and reading Mumsnet I've concluded that if I don't get some awareness and develop some boundaries I'm just going to end up in another abusive relationship or never be in one at all.
My father was psychologically and physically abusive to me when I was a child so I've never had proper knowledge of healthy male relationships. I read the free online chapter on the Freedom website and the male person who is described as "Friend" sounded like something out of a fairy story tbh.
I have difficulties with relationships in general anyway because of the mental health difficulties I've had since childhood, so I think learning about types of abusive men and being able to recognise them better will help enormously.
I lived on the internet when I was married as my XH always got angry when I went to stay with my (one) friend as he was jealous, so I definitely want to go to a group if there is one.
Those of you that have done it - does it help in the ways I think it might?
Thanks.
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SevenStones · 16/10/2017 00:05
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