I had a bad day yesterday. I just wanted to feel safe and relieved by the end of the day. Instead I got anger, blame and rejection. DH is Very cold to me, won't hug or kiss me, keeps telling me to just go. I want to just go somewhere, even though I really have no where to go. Both of our dc have issues and sn. So I really don't want to fuck up their lives any more. I just don't know what to do.
He sounds overwhelmed if the “just go” is in relation to you struggling to cope. Dh has been the same about me. I’m the chronically ill one though and it’s me not coping with looking after dd. I should just go out, check myself into a hotel. Noooo I just want to go to bed.
I feel you mummyoflittledragon. He can't really cope. He's never been terribly helpful tbh. He does what he feels like doing, and no more than that. He thinks that I should do the same, but I'm always thinking of other people. Our take our ds to all of his appointments and activities for his benefit. Of course I don't feel like doing it, but I do it any way. DH always says I do too much, but he definitely doesn't want to muck in and help.
I'm here again. I didn't realise that I was here in this place so recently. He wants us to "just go" again. Forever? I don't know. He's very cold again. Won't look at me. I've texted my mum to go and stay with her for a few days. I just don't know what to do. He's fed up with me being ill. As if I can help it. He says that it's my fault that I'm ill. I don't really understand how that works? Feeling so sad right now.
No, he says that I don't appreciate him, so I should just go. I'm ill at the moment. He's fed up with having to do things that I used to do before I got ill. He says that he can take care of himself, and he doesn't want to take care of me.
I did tell him that I thought that he was kind of a horrible person. He kept talking to me about a TV show where people die in stupid ways. I guess that we just don't quite have the same sense of humour, but I don't find people dying very funny. Every story he was telling me, I was saying That's horrible.
Also, he hates it when any one asks him for a lift any where. I don't bother any more, and walk or get the bus. His mum messaged asking for a lift the other day, and I felt awful having to say no sorry, he doesn't want to.
I was talking to him about this, and he stormed out of the bedroom. He came back still moody hours later, with his back to me, telling me to just go away.
I said Sorry for saying he was a horrible person. He said that he's sick of me saying sorry, and it means nothing to him. He said that he's sick of having to go to the shops, and pick up dc from school. I take them in the mornings, and do my fair share of house work. I just can't drive at the moment.