custody

[marinemike]

i just want a simple answer,Can my ex stop me seeing my child?

[category12]

Depends

[marinemike]

depends on what?

[Sistersofmercy101]

Depends on WHY.
Depends on whether DC is endangered short term physically or long term emotionally / psychologically by seeing you.
In short it depends on the situation.

[marinemike]

situation was normal after birth, in was seeing my child, then because
i didnt want to spend night with ex, she stopped me seeing my child.

[MrsBertBibby]

Then you need to take legal advice.

[Sistersofmercy101]

So you are the NRP?
(Who doesn't live with the child?)
A resident parent who has concerns for the safety of a child in their care has a Parental responsibility to safeguard that child's physical and emotional welfare.

[marinemike]

whats NRP?

[gamerchick]

None resident parent (as was said)

If you think she's using or going to use the child as a weapon to bring you into line then you need to see a solicitor. In the meantime you need to pay her maintanence putting aside any pay per view feelings you might have.

If you must be the grown up here thats the way it is.

[marinemike]

yes i a non residental parent.

[marinemike]

ok will as she has blocked all my access and contact ,how do i pay maintence?

[eyebrowsonfleek]

Direct debit.

Maintenance and contact are separate issues.
If you don’t have bank details, save the money for now and bring it up during maintenance/the legal process.

[eyebrowsonfleek]

That last maintenance should be mediation.

[marinemike]

ok thnaks eyebrowsonfleek,as i dont hav her bank detail.

[gamerchick]

For now use the CDs calculated to figure it out and save the money. When the baby is registered get a copy of the birth certificate (you can buy this yourself from the register office) and open a bank account for the child. while all this is going on save each week using the CSA calculator as a minimum. It means in any event that when they chase you for the money you'll have it ready.

You do need to a solicitor though.

[gamerchick]

*csa calculator that should say.

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[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

You first have to apply for a MIAM.
(Mediation)

If she doesn't engage or it doesn't work you apply for a child arrangements order. I believe it costs £215. You can self represent or be represented legally.

[FoofFighter]

Are you not paying maintenance for your child already?

[blackteasplease]

You're getting good advice on her OP.

I think legal advice/ legal route with mediation sounds sensible. Try to make sure you remain reasonable and grown up about things even if you are hurt and missing your child.

You can't just storm round there amd take your child obviously. Not saying you were considering it but some might.

If you have no means of paying maintenance at the mo because she has blocked all contact etc perhaps put some money into a separate account for your child.

[Sistersofmercy101]

Situation normal... "seeing" the child.
Parenting actually requires meeting the vast physical and emotional demands of the child for the benefit of no-one but the child.
Parents don't have any "rights" only "responsibilities" to the child and "seeing" them only for their own emotional gratification rather than for the benefit of the child is not in the best interests of the child.

[blackteasplease]

And sisters is correct 're responsibilities rather than rights. Always important to bear in mind.

[marinemike]

not paying maintince already as child only 4 weeks old and eveything was ok for first 2 weeks, and I know what parenting is, I have an 11 year old child already, that why I came on here to ask as its first time problem for me.

[marinemike]

also been to mediation and shes refused to go they are sending me court papers tomorrow.

[RebootYourEngine]

How old is the child? Are you on the birth certificate?

[blackteasplease]

Yeah but we don't know what you know and don't know cos it's a very brief OP!

[AdalindSchade]

He's not likely to be on the birth certificate as the baby is only 4 weeks old.

You need to follow the court process to get contact. The short answer to your original question is yes, unless and until there is a court order specifying contact.