I've been with my partner for just over 4 years now, we've lived together for 2 1/2 and we're both 27.
If he'd asked me to marry him two years ago, I would have said yes without hesitation. But now I'm not so sure because I feel like some things are starting to go wrong...
Our sex life used to be good, but in the last year it's really nose dived & now we barely have sex even once a month. We've talked a few times (I was worried he no longer found me attractive); he said not to worry, he was stressed about work and he'd lost his 'mojo'. It hasn't got better despite me trying.
I've do all the house work - not sure if this sounds petty!! It's like he just doesn't see that things need doing. I've just started a part-time degree on top of working, and he hasn't started helping out more despite saying he would (though he has offered to help out financially with buying books etc).
At weekends, he likes to stay up late and sleep in until late morning, whereas I like to be up early to make the most of the day. I love the outdoors, whereas he likes computer games.
I love him and I miss him when he's away. He makes me feel safe and he's a really nice person. I worry that we've lost our spark, and sometimes wonder whether I just like the idea of being married and buying a house etc, but not necessarily with him. Other times I absolutely love him to pieces and feel guilty for thinking that way.
I've been nagging him a bit about getting married and I think now he might be about to propose, so perhaps I'm just having a last minute freak out even though for years I've been so sure?
Do all relationships hit this stage a few years in, where the day to day stuff gets in the way of the romance and love?
Are these things that just need working at?
Am I over reacting and would I be stupid to throw away a relationship for things that might seem small?
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flso · 11/10/2017 18:19
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