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What do i do?

(10 Posts)
Bossyboo17 Wed 11-Oct-17 17:35:48

Hi
I have some sad news. My partner and I have been trying to conceive for a while and it finally happened thru ivf. I'm due to give birth next month. My partner had to rush off in the summer for 2 weeks to visit his mother abroad as she had been unwell and rushed to hospital, I was a bit apprehensive about him going in the 1st place - bit everyone needs to make time for the for their family. Anyway whilst he was out there his mother's condition deteriorated so he extended his time out there. His mother is a lot better now. Anyway, my partner usually has a password on his phone but he has just purchased a new phone he has not yet added a password to this new phone. Anyway just to make you aware i am not the snooping type but I just took the opportunity to go through his phone.
Well I was mortified there were various wats app chat relating to various women over the last few months, some he met whilst abroad.One of these women had just got married and another woman having a wats app chat who he must have had sex with as there was a conversation were he thanked her for the sex. This makes me think that I am not enough for him and he is not happy in are relationship. We have been through so much together trying to conceive, ivf failures and having to face the possibility of may be not being able to have children and the costs. We have been engaged for a while but due to our issues I wanted to have child first. I'm 8 months pregnant feel like I'm all over the place unsure on the future of our relationship as the trust has been broken.
What would other women - mums- to -be do in my situation? Any advice, pls as it's not just me now I need to think about.

Myheartbelongsto Wed 11-Oct-17 17:41:55

I'd tell him to fuck off.

So should you.

hellsbellsmelons Wed 11-Oct-17 17:48:31

Dump his arse as quick as possible.
He's a liar, a cheat, a dirty scumbag with no respect for women, including you.
The fact you need to ask is alarming.
Why would you put with up a serial cheater??
You know you and your DC deserve a lot better than this.
I would imagine there is more underlying here as well.
How long has he been away?

LEMtheoriginal Wed 11-Oct-17 17:50:09

It sounds like he checked out of your relatio ship long ago. Are you sure his mum was I'll for so long as he said?

focus on you - fuck him. You are already managing without him. Tell him you know about these OW and remember that you call the shots now.

Stumpygrump Wed 11-Oct-17 17:55:22

Oh I really feel for you. I think pretty much everyone is going to tell you the same thing - get rid. I feel the same way. He's a liar and a cheat.

But it sounds like you've been through so much getting this far so I appreciate that it's going to be hard to just walk away. But you need to. You deserve more. It doesn't mean he can't be a dad but you will never be able to trust him again and that's not an environment to bring up your little one in. Please please please believe that you are worth so much more than this x

FritzDonovan Wed 11-Oct-17 21:34:25

You've got actual evidence he cheated. If you don't dump him now he will do it again, but hide it better. It won't get any better than this for you. Best to make a clean break as early as possible.

Fattychan123 Wed 11-Oct-17 21:36:15

His mum is probably fine. What an arsehole !

Do you have family or someone u can confide in in real life.

Do you rent or own together ? Kick him out !!!

Guiltypleasures001 Wed 11-Oct-17 21:38:59

Sorry to hear this op

Mention to the midwives that an sti check might be need 💐
I think dump him, but get your ducks in a row as fast as possible, and get another
Birth partner pronto

Aquamarine1029 Wed 11-Oct-17 21:40:26

He's showed you the type of man he truly is. Stay with him, and he will continue to lie and cheat. You already know what you need to do.

Gemini69 Wed 11-Oct-17 21:52:21

Stop thinking you're NOT enough for him.. HE is scum... He is not good enough for you... HE is not good enough for your Baby....

tell him to stay abroad Lady flowers

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