nc for this thread, but this does seem to have been my lot always someone wanting to have a pop, abusive relationshipp after abusive relationship, starting at birth! Feeling tonight like nothing will change to the grave now.
Having ended up with PTSD as a result of various relationships, I am now so very fearful that it seems bullying is even more likely.
i read a thread tonight about this, very interesting views, but what i wonder is who puts a stop to bullies and how, if ever?
Agree with Desmindo The trick with bullies is to spot them early and avoid being a victim. Have you ever done 'The freedom programme' or worked through with a counsellor what it is makes you vulnerable to these awful people?
This is what I take issue with. I know so well that some can handle the bully type better than others but people and kids do kill themselves over this stuff. Women and children for instance are turned refugees because of them, others leave careeers as a result, lose confidence etc and all the rest.
I mean isnt it a bit like racism where's minorities have to just get over themselves, get strong and move community instead of the positive action approach to stamp out racism.
I dont know if i've explained it so well. That thankfully anti-racism, abuse and so on are high on the agenda and far more widely acknowledged but there is still such a widespread approach to penalising the victim turn their lives upside-down instead of turning the life of the bully upside-down with the basic rules of respect to fellow human-beings
In school and work situations you can't get away from the bullies, so they have to be dealt with. No one has to be in a relationship with an abusive man though. That doesn't mean that their behaviour shouldn't be challenged by society at large when known, just that you don't need to get in a relationship with one and try and change him. And I think if you end up in "abusive relationship after abusive relationship " you do really need to ask yourself what makes you attractive to/ attracted by these men.