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Is it acceptable? - contacting him at his workplace

(11 Posts)
Batulay Tue 10-Oct-17 18:31:36

Funny I make this thread after my so called singledom pledge yesterday. Anyway, you get to know a guy online, you really just click, spend hours chatting for over a week, but don't exchange phone numbers yet. Youve been single for a very long time, you want to give yourself a chance at happiness but are just so damn scared. So you decide to block him at the very first chance, how do you justify it? Well, he's just another player. 2 days after blocking him, you realise that you've made a massive mistake, you could have talked it through you decide to unblock him, and wait for him to log back in...that story happened 2 months ago.

I know it sounds absolutely ridiculous, like how many guys create fake online accounts, how many are just looking for 'fun' etc etc etc but I have this unshakeable feeling that he was genuine, my mind is not at rest but for some reason i had decided to cut it short, not because I didn't like him, but running away was the easiest option. It's like I'm scared of having a relationship, of commitment. I've come to realise that, and I'm working on it. In the meantime, I am desperate to get in touch with him, not via that website as hes not logging in, but via his workplace. He told me the name and place of where he works. There's about 6 options when I call, no idea which dep he works in, and I dont know his last name. I know what I've written sounds pathetic, but that's the beauty of anonymity on the internet. Anyway, how could I get through to him? Would leaving a message with my name and number to the receptionist, and give his name and brief description work? Whatever the outcome, i feel like i want to try to speak with him, set the records straight. Am I just being unreasonable? I'm confused and have been for the last 2 months..confused

Redglitter Tue 10-Oct-17 18:34:21

I wouldn't bother if I was you. To be honest if I was him I wouldn't be interested in anything you had to say to me now. I'd just leave it

InfiniteSheldon Tue 10-Oct-17 18:36:56

No, just no there is no good outcome to contacting someone you've previously blocked at their workplace. Especially someone you blocked for no reason, you will look like a deranged stalker please don't do it.

Josuk Tue 10-Oct-17 18:37:57

OP - leaving a message with a receptionist and his description - would only make you sound stalkerish or a bit nuts.

All you can do at this point is to send him a message in the way you communicated before - via that website. Explain that you went through some personal stuff and needed to take time off. And that you are sorry to have disappeared.
And just wait.

But don’t don’t hope too much. Time moves fast in the online world. He may have found someone already.

Hellywelly10 Tue 10-Oct-17 18:39:20

No no no. Just no. Do not contact him at work. Unblock him. Put it down to experience and don't block non wierd guys online. I repeat do not contact him at work.

MorrisZapp Tue 10-Oct-17 18:41:29

Never, never ever contact someone at work unless it's a genuine emergency.

Just don't.

MudCity Tue 10-Oct-17 18:45:14

No way should you contact him at work.

Send him an online message through the channel you were using previously. He may not respond but that's his choice (just as it was yours to block him).

Definitely don't contact him at work though!

Batulay Tue 10-Oct-17 18:48:07

Ok ok Ok, goodness did not expect so many responses. You're all right, I knew down right that it wasn't a good idea but I suppose i just needed confirmation, which I got from you all. Thank you all - and yeah lesson learnt, albeit the hard way.

swingofthings Tue 10-Oct-17 18:53:19

In the meantime, I am desperate to get in touch with him, not via that website as hes not logging in
That is likely to be because he's met someone and therefore not looking any longer, but if not, if you send him a message that way, wouldn't he get a notification anyway? So it's up to him whether he comes to read it or not.

MudCity Tue 10-Oct-17 18:58:42

Good luck OP. The dating world is a fickle one, that's for sure! flowers

Lagerthaisfabulous Tue 10-Oct-17 19:00:40

Honestly if i was him, we had been chatting then you disappeared/blocked me then tries to hunt me down at work.....i would think you were someone i needed to avoid.

You ghosted him. I would, at the very mosts, send a message on whatever you met on. He will see it if he ever logs on. Leave it at that.

But in reality you are best leaving him be.

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