Please give me some honest views. After an emotionally abusive long marriage, I’ll be darned if I know what a good relationship looks like. I have been with new partner for a year. He is a good man. Kind, honest, helpful, has his faults as do I. Sex is good. Kissing not so good. But..... for me there’s just not that ‘spark’, I don’t overly fancy him. I fancied my ex but he treated me terrribly. Can good relationships exist without a spark? Is it just that the honeymoon period is over? If I ended it I honestly don’t know if I’d be relieved or sad. I don’t like people getting close to me. He deserves better than this. The reasons I have range from petty (things about his physical appearance) to genuine, such as I can’t see how we could ever merge our families and live together. Much as I’m loving my independence since my divorce and separation, deep down I don’t want to always be on my own.
Sorry if this is garbled. I just don’t know how I should feel and am not very good at trusting what I do feel, having allowed myself to be talked into staying in an awful marriage for so long. My gut says this relationship isnt right for me but I can’t give any credible reason why not. He said it would devastate him if we ended, how can I do that to him with no decent reason? Help?!
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When ‘the spark’ is missing but the relationship is good...
Blinkingecksake · 10/10/2017 16:42
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