So I'm looking for a bit of advice please. I'm really very undecided about sending a message to the father of my daughter. To cut a long story short I was in a relationship with him for a few months, we both wanted children (both late 30's) I fell pregnant unexpectedly and he ran. He is living in another country (very far away) and I have brought up our daughter happily on my own with the support of my amazing family. I work and have my own house so I don't really need him in our lives.
When my daughter was born I informed him as he requested. I also always said he is welcome to co-parent if he wished but he decided he wanted to pursue a life of being a beach bum so I left him to it.
Zoom forward a few years later. I had to contact him recently to ask for a full family health history due to finding out my daughter has a heart murmur. It's not serious and something she will grow out of but the hospital advised I should have a full health history for her. So I approached him and was half expecting him to ignore my message. We have had no contact since my little girl was born (his choice). He replied a week later providing the necessary details. But he didn't ask after her. Just gave what was needed and that was that.
I have been thinking since we have had this little bit of contact if I should ask if he wishes to start building a relationship with his daughter. If not I won't contact him again. This is a HUGE step for me. Selfishly I don't want him in our lives. We are happy our little unit. My daughter is happy and stable. But I feel for my daughter it would good for her to know more about her father. He I suspect will ignore my message. But I feel I should try on behalf of my daughter?
Any advice please? I want to make he right decision on behalf of my little girl.
Thanks x
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Cherryblossom200 · 09/10/2017 16:28
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