Hello. "D"F of two years is two different people. The nice one and the horrible one. You never know when he will change to this nasty horrible person. Yesterday he went into a fit of rage over me telling him that his apologies for last week (he was insulting me ) meant nothing because he just carries on doing it. This is the only thing that i said. He went into a fit of rage over the phone , his voice changed and started mocking me and insulting me. It lasted couple of hours. I went into an unemotional state and i was just listening. After a bit i started taking notes because when he is like that i genuinely forget after a bit. I dont have memory issues , just when he goes like that its like my mind goes blank. Among the insults was that he can now see my true colours, i probably nagged to death my previous partner thats why he left me( we separarted after 15 years, still on great terms) , i probably have been with at least 6 men (only two and he knows it). He is a luxury item in an expensive shop and i am a worthless piece of shit , a pound shop item. I should apologise to him (no idea what for). He doesnt give a shit what i think because i am delusional. I am stupid (i said i can not hold the hone and talk to him while cooking) and i need extra hands for what people with basic IQ do easy. If i have any more clown stories to say or if i done . I pre plan to make him angry (??)so i can have something to nag him about. My value is diminished because i had a child with another man (miscarriage with previous partner ten years ago) and i better start realizing that he is making a favor. Etc etc
I stayed quiet, and that angered him even more. I just put the phone down and went to sleep. Today he pretends that nothing happened. He messaged "hoping" (demanding) "some love" and "nice words". He acts as its a normal day. He even messaged that i am probably busy (i dont reply to him) and "we can perhaps figure out something later "
I find it impossible to believe that he deosnt understand what he is doing. Can someone please explain to me whats going on with him, if you have been in similar situations. I want to break up with him but i am scared because he can get so nasty. I believe that if i understand whats happening it will be helpful for me
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Is it even possible that he doesnt understand?
Artemiss · 09/10/2017 15:37
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